Mars and Venus!

You can never look at one of them without seeing the other. And you've gotta know how your own Mars and Venus signs get along togeather before you go comparing them to someone else's. Mars and Venus can help eachother take over the world or they can cause eachother a lot of headaches. Let's make an example. If a girl named Autumn has both her Mars and Venus in the same sign then we know the things she likes and the things that inspire her to action are the same. Also we know that the qualities she's looking for in another person are also the same qualities that pull her in on a physical level. Now let's say that the sign these two planets are in on her birthchart is Libra. Well now Venus is in it's glory! What does that mean? It means that the personality traits given to her by the Venus gene are going to be more dominant, and stronger than the Mars gene. You might wonder why that is, I mean they're both in the SAME sign right?

Well it's because each planet has a sign that it finds easiest to express it's self in. Astrology books will often  call this a " ruler". So in most books when you look up Libra you will see that Venus " rules" Libra. And that just means that Libra is the sign which Venus has the easiest time expressing it's self through. But it's a difficult sign for Mars to express it's self through. What does that mean for Autumn? It might mean that she's surrounded by things she likes and things that spark her interest and her passions but that passion is very fleeting for her. She might feel like it's difficult to get in touch with the passion and physical energy that her Mars sign should be giving her. So now you have an idea of how these planets can be weakened and strengthened by the signs they are trying to express themselves through.

Now let's say that Autumn is in love with a man named Collin. And Collin's Mars and Venus are both in Aquarius. How will that help or hinder Autumn? Will he like her? Will it be a love that lasts? Well those are big questions that require you to think about ALL of their personality and not jus Mars and Venus. But the good news is that Aquarius and Libra are both air signs. That means that Autumn and Collin both appreciate the same basic things. If you look back to where I talked about the air element you will have an idea of what those " basic things " are. Autumn's Mars and Venus are in Libra, which is the cardinal air sign, the one that feels a big push to take it's energy to other people. So she is going to be very focused on the man she loves, probably a little obsessive in that she will make everythign else in her life somehow about Collin. But since her Mars is in the same sign and since it is also at a disadvantage expressing it's self, she may have trouble translating that obsession into physical passion.

Collin's planets are in Aquarius which is the fixed air sign. Because they are the same element, he can appreciate her form of affection and devotion and enjoy it but when he goes to return the favor it will look a little different because Aquarius is the fixed air sign. All of the fixed signs are very grounded in themselves so it's possible that many of the things he says he is doing for her will look like things he is just doing for him. And this will probably annoy Autumn. She might greatly enjoy his expressions of love, but at the end of the day be stuck wondering ..... wait a moment... did he really do it for me? Or did he just want to do it and then decide to bring me along for the ride? She might ask him this and he might say " Why does it matter? As long as we're both enjoying ourselves." But to someone with their Venus in Libra the answer is yes, it matters. Because now Autumn is stuck hateing the idea that she is making every part of her life about him, intentionaly makeing him the center of her universe, and he is acting like she's not anyone in perticular. And He may say to her " Of course you're important! Why is it I did something nice and you are so upset with me?"

Well a big part of the answer is that Autumn and Collin are both expressing their love and motivations with air signs. And air signs put huge importance on the idea of something. The mental framework of who they are and what this relationship is in their own minds, who they have decided to be for eachother, has never been more important. Air signs are very stuck in the relm of mental energy. All the thougths behind the actions count for double! So it's good that they both put importance in the same thing. But Autumn is showing it buy pushing her thoughts onto Collin, trying to absorb him and Collin is trying to return the affection but he dosen't feel the need to BECOME Autumn. One of the beautys of Aquarius is that it is almost never forcefull. It won't tell someone else who to be. And that may confuse Autumn because she may worry that his lack of agressive affection is also a lack of careing.

Interesting isn't it? In this situation Autumn and Collin are not a bad match for eachother. They value the same types of expression. They both value that relm of thought in the mind that motivates us and which prompts us to compliment eachother and verbaly show affection. Their relationship is never lacking in verbal affection. And it's likely that they enjoy and aspire to add to their lives very similar things. But they will need to learn how to understand eachother's way of expressing it. In this case, as with most relationships, listening to eachother and putting yourself in the other person's shoes becomes very important.