Moon & Venus - Love and Reflections

Today's topic of conversation was inspired by the relationship I've noticed between venus signs and moon signs. I make it a habit to look at multiple sources of information when it comes to astrology. So even though I know a little about venus and moon signs already, I continue to look them up on different sites and in any new books I find, because I'm always excited to hear a new idea or point of view. Now on my birth chart venus is in Libra but as I was reading through the description of venus in Virgo I found it struck a cord with me and I could easily see those qualities in myself. Virgo is my moon sign.

I have a few close friends who's signs I can remember easily so I checked theirs too and found that the descriptions of the venus signs that matched their moon signs were also accurate, just as accurate as their real venus signs. Now let me explain why this would make sense.... As I mentioned before, our moon signs represent our subconcious self. That means they are our instincts, our way of responding without thinking, and our most rudimentery needs.

I've had people tell me before that they pick the wrong people all the time. They say that somehow they always wind up with crazy unbalanced boyfriends or girlfriends. Or a person will say to me that they love a person but that the person dosen't deserve their love, so why do they feel this way? And my responce has always been that you should look at your past relationships, all of them, good or bad, and see what those people all have in common. Because love is so personal and so deep, that every time we love another person it tells us something about ourselves. Love is something we give to others but it also reflects back at us, and shows us who we are, what we value, and what we need.

In astrology venus describes the things we love, the people, the place, and the ideas. But the moon is the reflection of that love on us. It's what that love says about our inner most needs. So read both of them carefully and really put some thought into the pattern you are making for yourself. Some people believe in fate and others don't. But weather it's real or not we can find ourselves in the same situations over and over again, because of our own decisions. Now maybe you will look in that mirror and you won't like what you see, then what? Well if you have an insecurity or an emotional need that is driving you to make the same decisions over again, don't beat yourself up over it. And don't react by trying to do the exact opposite all the time either! Instead, try to think of a way you can get what you're craving but in a very healthy way.

For example, maybe you just care too much, you're too sensetive, or you try too hard to please others and go that extra mile for them. These things aren't bad at all! But they mean that you need to find someone who will appreciate that sensetive caring trait, and not just appreciate it, but also give you the extra strength and stability you need in order to be such a careing individual. Because caring and going the extra mile for people takes a lot out of you! You need someone who will re-energize your life.

Nothing in astrology is a " bad " personality gene. And weather or not one of them is better than the other is just a matter of opinion. The truth is that they simply are what they are. We all need some type of emotional or psychological support and fulfillment from other people. Astrology is a tool we can use to help us understand what traits we most need to find in others so that we can not just find peopel that we like, not just people we love, but have the ability to find people who will ultimately make US better people. Because when we are at our most confident and motivated, that's when we can do the most to improve the world we live in and the lives of others around us.

Love and Earth

Venus in the earth signs.... this gene will indicate a person who requires a certain feeling of stability in their love life. It will also indicate a person who wants to " build" their relationship with another person, often this means that they have a strong desire to build a home or family. These people are often cautious about love and don't leap in blindly. They will appreciate other people who are direct, honest, and mature. They have no time for pretenders or people who dont know who they are yet! And they all seem to appreciate the nicer things in life, nice house, nice furniture, good food, quality AND quantity are important here. Read on for details!

Venus in Taurus - These people tend to like comfortable surroundings that appeal to the senses. They aren't thrilled by the thought of a fast paced life or a whirl wind romance. They want constance, permanance, safety, and comfort. They will be very loyal lovers. You'll never have to worry about them cheating but you may also have to convince them that they are valuable to you. They want to know that they bring something important to the relationship. And they will take promises and comitments very seriously. They are definitly the type who want to get married and build a sense of home or family with the person they love. You will have a good chance with these people if you are straitforward, open, and natural. Expect them to be stubborn but consistent.

Venus in Virgo - These people will show their devotion through their eagerness to help you all the time and their desire to remember all the details about you. But they are shy in love and might need to be extra extra sure that you like them before they speak up and say they like you. They will try to help you at every turn, maybe more than you will want. But at least you know that if you need a hero there is someone right there waiting to be that person for you. They will always try to improve the relationship so be prepared to talk it out.

Venus in Capricorn - They are very practicle and responcible people in love. They need to be able to predict where your relationship with them will go. They like to look sure of themselves and very confident but they may be very hesitant to get attached and have their feelings hurt. They are attracted to people who know what they want in life and a plan for getting there. They admire hard work and determination in others.

Love and Elements

Venus in the air element... if your venus is in Libra, Aquarius, or Gemini then it's in an air sign. That means you may run the risk of falling in love with the idea of your relationship more than the person you're actually in it with! It's just something to watch out for. It's also important to keep in mind that people with this trait can be indecisive when it comes to matters of the heart. They may struggle to choose between potential lovers.

Venus in Libra - Love easily becomes an obsession. And because Venus is expressed so clearly in the sign of Libra it becomes one of the dominate traits in the person's personality. This signs is cardinal so it wants to take all it's love and shove it in your face haha. It's also prone to idealizing things beyond the actual reality. But you don't always have to look at that as a bad thing. If a person can use this ideal in their mind as a goal to achieve and inspire drive then it can be productive and positive. People with this gene will really go the extra mile for the ones they love. These people may also be artistic souls and are attracted to things with a certain elegance and symetry. You could call them people of refined taste.

Venus in Aquarius - Love is friendly and unposessive and unjudgemental. This person will take a much more hands off approach. Venus in Aquarius loves all it's friends and is genraly good to strangers too so it might be hard for them to show it if they like you in a more personal way. But the good news is that if you DO make it through the barrier and become someone they really love then you always will be. People with this gene do not fall out of love easily. They are attracted to things that are out of the ordinary. They love novelty so even if it's not really new, but just new to them, you'll have their full attention. These people can also dream pretty ambitiously.

Venus in Gemini - Of all the air signs this one may have the most trouble making up it's mind when it comes to love. Venus in gemini loves mental stimulation. So as with the other air signs, a person who is thought provoking will have their attention for a long time. Venus in Gemini is a very friendly gene to have, it ususaly means that the person loves conversation and talks to many people through the day. It might also mean that they gossip a bit. People with this gene can be very popular. But tread carefully, because someone this friendly might easily mis-lead others into thinking it's more interested than it actually is.


We'll be talking a lot more about Venus in the next few days!
Here is a piece of a very famous painting by Botticelli called
The Birth of Venus

Mars and Venus!

You can never look at one of them without seeing the other. And you've gotta know how your own Mars and Venus signs get along togeather before you go comparing them to someone else's. Mars and Venus can help eachother take over the world or they can cause eachother a lot of headaches. Let's make an example. If a girl named Autumn has both her Mars and Venus in the same sign then we know the things she likes and the things that inspire her to action are the same. Also we know that the qualities she's looking for in another person are also the same qualities that pull her in on a physical level. Now let's say that the sign these two planets are in on her birthchart is Libra. Well now Venus is in it's glory! What does that mean? It means that the personality traits given to her by the Venus gene are going to be more dominant, and stronger than the Mars gene. You might wonder why that is, I mean they're both in the SAME sign right?

Well it's because each planet has a sign that it finds easiest to express it's self in. Astrology books will often  call this a " ruler". So in most books when you look up Libra you will see that Venus " rules" Libra. And that just means that Libra is the sign which Venus has the easiest time expressing it's self through. But it's a difficult sign for Mars to express it's self through. What does that mean for Autumn? It might mean that she's surrounded by things she likes and things that spark her interest and her passions but that passion is very fleeting for her. She might feel like it's difficult to get in touch with the passion and physical energy that her Mars sign should be giving her. So now you have an idea of how these planets can be weakened and strengthened by the signs they are trying to express themselves through.

Now let's say that Autumn is in love with a man named Collin. And Collin's Mars and Venus are both in Aquarius. How will that help or hinder Autumn? Will he like her? Will it be a love that lasts? Well those are big questions that require you to think about ALL of their personality and not jus Mars and Venus. But the good news is that Aquarius and Libra are both air signs. That means that Autumn and Collin both appreciate the same basic things. If you look back to where I talked about the air element you will have an idea of what those " basic things " are. Autumn's Mars and Venus are in Libra, which is the cardinal air sign, the one that feels a big push to take it's energy to other people. So she is going to be very focused on the man she loves, probably a little obsessive in that she will make everythign else in her life somehow about Collin. But since her Mars is in the same sign and since it is also at a disadvantage expressing it's self, she may have trouble translating that obsession into physical passion.

Collin's planets are in Aquarius which is the fixed air sign. Because they are the same element, he can appreciate her form of affection and devotion and enjoy it but when he goes to return the favor it will look a little different because Aquarius is the fixed air sign. All of the fixed signs are very grounded in themselves so it's possible that many of the things he says he is doing for her will look like things he is just doing for him. And this will probably annoy Autumn. She might greatly enjoy his expressions of love, but at the end of the day be stuck wondering ..... wait a moment... did he really do it for me? Or did he just want to do it and then decide to bring me along for the ride? She might ask him this and he might say " Why does it matter? As long as we're both enjoying ourselves." But to someone with their Venus in Libra the answer is yes, it matters. Because now Autumn is stuck hateing the idea that she is making every part of her life about him, intentionaly makeing him the center of her universe, and he is acting like she's not anyone in perticular. And He may say to her " Of course you're important! Why is it I did something nice and you are so upset with me?"

Well a big part of the answer is that Autumn and Collin are both expressing their love and motivations with air signs. And air signs put huge importance on the idea of something. The mental framework of who they are and what this relationship is in their own minds, who they have decided to be for eachother, has never been more important. Air signs are very stuck in the relm of mental energy. All the thougths behind the actions count for double! So it's good that they both put importance in the same thing. But Autumn is showing it buy pushing her thoughts onto Collin, trying to absorb him and Collin is trying to return the affection but he dosen't feel the need to BECOME Autumn. One of the beautys of Aquarius is that it is almost never forcefull. It won't tell someone else who to be. And that may confuse Autumn because she may worry that his lack of agressive affection is also a lack of careing.

Interesting isn't it? In this situation Autumn and Collin are not a bad match for eachother. They value the same types of expression. They both value that relm of thought in the mind that motivates us and which prompts us to compliment eachother and verbaly show affection. Their relationship is never lacking in verbal affection. And it's likely that they enjoy and aspire to add to their lives very similar things. But they will need to learn how to understand eachother's way of expressing it. In this case, as with most relationships, listening to eachother and putting yourself in the other person's shoes becomes very important.

The Elements - Air

The next element we're going to talk about is air. Everyone loves a warm windy day right? It's important to remember that Air and Fire are natural compliments to each other. The reasoning behind that statement is that our idea of " elements" follow a give and take rule. Now in most astrology books they explain this by saying that Air and Water are sustaining or nurturing elements but I think that might be confusing. Instead we will compare it to food! You need food and water to live right?  And you need even more of it if you're going to climb mountains or invent a time machine. Air and Water represent the type of energy we get from food and water. Earth and Fire are the elements that allow us to put that essential energy to work. Food goes to your body's internal furnace to be processed and burned. Now Air is the type of food that works best for Fire. Both of these elements are a little more mentally stimulating and like to communicate with words, ideas, passions, etc. So this pair is more likely to help you build a time machine. And the Water + Earth combination is more likely to help you climb a mountain. Remember that Fire can still draw energy from Water, it dosen't mean that energy isn't being shared and transferred. The fire will still burn but it will be harder to reach it's full potential because the engine will still be running on  gas, but not the type of gas it was made for.

So let's talk about Air more specificly. What is the essence of this element when you get right down to it's core? Most books will tell you that it's intelligence and mental power. And it's true that people who have a lot of air signs in their personality's DNA are often very smart and quick thinking. But I think the real essence, the real treasure of air signs, is their ability to be separate from other people. Does that sound odd? I'm sure it does. Air signs have the ability to detach themselves from other people and events. They can simply exist. Why is that wonderful and what does it mean when we are talking about personality traits???

Why it's wonderful:  Because that means people with air signs can be more self sufficient. They might like living with other people but they don't need to for the sake of mental or emotional sanity. And it gives them the ability to look at situations fairly without as many personal judgments. They are able to meet new people without any particular expectations or judgments. They give new friends a fair shot. Last but not least, isn't it wonderful to think that someone has the ability to be happy in a truly light-hearted child like way, even if the whole world is crumbling down? Because they can form an inner sense of calm and balance which the outside world can not touch.

Why it can be a problem: Air signs are often described as being cold or unsympathetic because they can detach their emotions from others and it makes the empathy they give less personal and much more general. If they do you a kindness you may feel like ... " well he would do that for anyone. It doesn't mean I'm special or that we are close." Some people have trouble feeling close to people with these traits. It can seem like they are walking around with a shield over their heart at all times so that you can't get in.

The three signs that express the element of air are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. You might recall that yesterday we talked about the 3 modes of astrology and how they help us measure the intensity that each element has in the three signs that express it.

Libra ------------ - - - - - - - - - - - - Aquarius - - - - - - - - - - -    -    -    -    -   -    - Gemini   -   -   -   -   -


Cardinal - Libra is the cardinal air signs. It reaches outward to try to shape and influence the world.
             So Libra is taking that great energy and trying to do something with it. This sign is especially
             good at fairness and likes to meddle in things.
Fixed - Aquarius is the fixed air sign. Like all fixed signs it is securely rooted in it's self. Sometimes
             being " rooted " in yourself can look like selfishness, vanity, or tremendous self confidence.
             Aquarius is the one who most often seems to be wearing a shield over it's heart as a means of
             self preservation.
Mutable - Gemini is the mutable air sign. It is the most adaptable and we usualy think of that as a
             good thing. But remember that it can also make a person look uncommitted, or unreliable.
             Gemini is often the most social of the air signs and does not find it as easy to detach from the
             world as the other air signs.

You can imagine this as a very strong wind that starts near the Libra with a very concentrated flow of air which begins to spread out a little near Aquarius, and by the time it reaches Gemini it's rushing off into all different directions.

I hope you enjoyed the description of air signs and that it got you thinking!!! Please feel free to leave your thoughts and comments. I'd like to hear what ideas and questions this information inspires in your mind!